Reb Shimshon Barsky
[The letter below is printed at the beginning of Reb Shimshon’s classic Breslov work, Likutei Eitzos Ivri-Teitch, “Rebbe Nachman’s Collected Advice Explained in Yiddish”]
May G-d be blessed
To my dear son, Noson, and his entire family, may they live:
Please tell me about my precious, esteemed grandson, Yisrael, may he live long: if he now goes to cheder (school), if he knows the Hebrew letters and vowel points, and if the melamed (teacher) has taught him the blessings for the various kinds of food and drink, and so forth.
Let there be no excuses: the melamed should treat him pleasantly in every way, and never frighten or threaten him at all, for any reason. The mind of a child is extremely sensitive. Therefore, one must never frighten a child or threaten him for any reason, so that he should come to no harm, G-d forbid.
Additionally, tell the melamed that he must never display anger or rage. No excuses! He must not inculcate fear in the child, neither while teaching him the siddur (prayer book) nor while teaching him the blessings, etc. Rather, he should relate to the child in a calm, pleasant manner, without anger or harshness, so as not to upset him.
Without any excuses, he should fulfill everything I have written in this letter, and may G-d help you to raise all your children in the ways of Torah and good deeds, with material blessings and nachas (emotional gratification).